But how to strike the balance between charm and ingratiation ?

不过，如何在展现魅力与奉迎讨好之间达到平衡呢？

Those are the facts . No amount of ingratiation can change them .

这些就是事实，再怎么逢迎讨好也不能改变什么。

If you use flattery to corrupt a man there is no excuse for it , but if you apply ingratiation as a way to make political friends , it is acceptable .

如果你用恭维来收买一个男人，你无法不遭到诟病，但如果你用奉承的方式去获得政治伙伴，这种情况还是可以接受的。